So, I checked out the link to Andrew Marin’s blog.
The post is a letter from a gay father who desperately wants to worship in a more traditional setting but is having a hard time finding a place. I encourage you to hop on over to Andrew’s blog and read the entire post, but here are some excerpts from the letter:
“The truth is that Mark and I have no desire to divorce ourselves from each other. To do so would be disruptive to our boys, who’ve already dealt with separation issues related to their time in foster care. We’re both content with our lives. We both have good jobs, fun kids, distracting pets, and a nice home. We’re well-matched husbands for each other. All things considered, we’ve been blessed by God and I thank Him every day for what we have together.”
“My point is, most churches only seem willing to accept our family if we dissolve our household. One of the most stabilizing elements in my life – my husband and our family – are treated like the most harmful thing that I could maintain in my life. I recognize and reject this crazy paradox of thinking and so do other gay families like us. And that’s why most of us won’t worship in Christian churches.”
How does the church reach out to families like these in loving ways without affirming their lifestyles?
I know there are varying thoughts on how to deal with a situation like this one that range from telling this man that he needs to turn or burn or, instead, accepting him for who he is and not prying into his personal life. Are those the only two options? Is there another approach to this situation?
Personally, I think it is a bit of a cop-out to simply quote scripture about how homosexuality is a sin, and the only way for this man to be a “true Christian” is to stop living in sin. I don’t know if I have an answer, though. I would start off by loving this family with no strings attached. Then I would spend lots of time in prayer and seeking counsel from a variety of people on how to go from there.
For me, it comes down to following the Jesus Creed: Love God and love others. It’s the job of the Spirit to change what He wants to change in lives as people respond to Him. It’s our job to love people and keep pointing them to the God who loves them and cares more about them than I ever could.
I have many other questions that go through my mind, but I thought I’d like to hear from you. What are your thoughts?